The Truth is – What You Think – You Get!

By Allison Constantino

Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t – you’re right!”

Henry understood how much your mental attitude determines your future success or failure.

If you think the world is terrible or fabulous, you’ll look around and find confirmation of your thoughts everywhere. Everything you think, see, and hear will validate your ideas!

You’re thinking, “How can our minds be that powerful?”

Have you ever misplaced something only to find it was exactly where you knew 100% it couldn’t possibly be?

How can we be so “wrong” about something we thought was “right”?

Thomas Watson, president of IBM in 1943, said, “I think there is a world market of maybe five computers.” Of course, at the time, “computers” were vacuum tube-powered, adding machines the size of houses!

“There is no reason anyone would want a computer in their home,” said Ken Olsen, founder of the Digital Equipment Corporation, in 1977. Compaq later acquired DEC.

What would you choose if you could choose how you think at any given moment?

Did you learn you had complete or no control over your thoughts growing up?

Did you learn you were a victim, and it didn’t matter what you thought? You had no control over your thoughts because someone else was thinking for you and making all your choices!

Did you learn that your thoughts empowered you and that anything was possible, and no matter how outrageous your ideas were, you had complete control over your life?

Harvard Business Review found that optimists are 40% more likely to get a promotion over the next year and six times more likely to be highly engaged at work. They are five times less likely to burn out than pessimists.

According to sokyahealth.com, we love feeling good. Our day seems brighter, tasks more manageable, and nothing can get in our way when we are optimistic. Positivity increases our self-confidence; it is why we take risks. The power of positivity drives us to find good in others. We have faith in ourselves and others, freeing us to accept affirmative responses.

Sokyahealth.com found that positive thinking is also associated with increased cells that boost your immune system. Essentially, positive energy is a soldier that protects your mind and body from harmful influences. Healthy emotions create a buffer and suppress negative emotions such as depression or post-traumatic stress disorder.

If you’re not a positive thinker but would like to be, try this small change in your thinking.

Pretend you’re a happy, successful person for one week. When something makes you angry or upsets you, ask yourself, “If I was a happy, successful person, how would I react to this situation? How would I feel? How would I act?

Then change your thoughts and behavior and think and act like a happy, successful person!

If you don’t like the “new you,” you can always return to your original thought patterns.

Maybe it’s too much for you all at one time!

Try pretending in smaller increments. Add one small positive thought to your behavior each week and see how you feel after a month. Do you feel more empowered and in control of your life? Are you better able to handle life’s ups and downs? Would you consider yourself a happier person?

If you answer, “Yes, I feel better,” you’re on the right track!

Remember Henry’s words of wisdom, “Whether you think you can or can’t – you’re right!”

“A Matter of Latitude” by Isobel Blackthorn

ASIN: B07KWM65GY
Published December 2018 by Creativia Publishing

Reviewed for Close to the Bone Publishing

Reviewed by Allison Constantino

If you enjoy a “cozy mystery” like I do, this book fits the bill. Set on the island paradise of Lanzarote, one of the Canary Islands off the coast of West Africa, this is the perfect setting for a disappearance.

Paula, the main character, left Britain to follow her heart and marry Celestino, an artist and environmental activist on Lanzarote. “Like so many others, I came to the island to escape my hum-drum life and Britain’s dismal weather.”

When Celestino disappears without a trace, Paula can only guess which politician her husband confronted about his or her corrunption, or illegal environmental activities on the island.

Paula’s frantic search continues for days revealing more about herself, her husband, her friends and enemies and the island paradise she chose as her new home, than she ever imagined.

I love these quotes!

Describing how she feels after finding her husband missing, “He appears to me now as an absent presence.”

Describing Lanzarote, “This is the kind of place where it’s better to be a tourist rather than a resident, unless you were born here.”

Describing the island’s corruption, ” It isn’t so much that the developers and local councils are breaking the rules, they’re ignoring them completely,

These quotes give the reader some special insights into the dark underbelly of the island’s burgeoning tourist industry, probably more than your average tourist wants to know.

As a reader, don’t ask me how I did this, but somehow I confused the two main characters. I thought Paula was having flashbacks, until a third of the way through the book, I realized I had been reading about Celestino, not Paula!

Once I had that realization, things made a lot more sense, but I couldn’t help thinking, “I wish Paula would hurry up and put all the clues together and find Celestino.” I felt like the book could have moved much faster than it actually did.

Isobel Blackthorn, originally from London obviously loves Lanzarote where she lived briefly, renovated an old stone ruin, taught English and mingled with the locals. She learned from the locals about the corruption on the island, involving illegal property development impacting adversely on the environment. She promised herself she would do what she could to raise awareness of these illegal activities through her writing.

How to Find Inspiration in Unexpected Places

“Goblin Market Restaurant Tree” https://allison-constantino.pixels.com/featured/the-goblin-market-restaurant-tree-mt-dora-allison-constantino.html

As an artist, I think I look at things differently.

I see things that completely stop me in my tracks, while others might walk right on by! I’m always amazed at how differently each one of us sees and processes the world.

A case in point is one of my recent trips to Mount Dora, Florida with my husband.  We love to visit Mt. Dora. We walk around the quaint downtown area, treat ourselves to a great meal, take a hike, go for a boat or train ride or just hang out.

This particular day, after a walk around the downtown area, we headed to one of my favorite restaurants, “The Goblin Market Restaurant.” (http://thegoblinmarketrestaurant.com/)  for lunch. It’s been there since 1996. This particular day was a perfect spring day and the hostess asked us if we would like to dine inside or outside on the patio.  We both said, “Outside!” So the hostess takes us to this table outside under this huge oak tree! She gives us the menu.  I glance at the menu. We already know what we want, so we order. We hand back the menus, then I look up!

I’m totally blown away! There is this plant that has wound itself completely up the side of the tree. The plant is being lit by the sun and seems to be sun lit from behind all the way up the tree. Even the tree leaves seem to be back-lit! I can’t believe how beautiful it is!

The beautiful bright green plants are contrasted against the red tones of the tree bark and the bright lime green tree leaves are highlighted against the brilliant Easter egg blue sky!

It completely takes my breath away! I take my phone out and start snapping photos – from every angle imaginable! Snap, snap, snap, snap, snap.

Now people are starting to stare at me. I’m sure they’re thinking, “What could she possibly be taking a picture of? All we see is a HUGE tree! What is she doing?”

I keep snapping photos, hoping that the pictures will do the image justice.

I couldn’t wait to get back home so I could start my painting of the tree. I knew the painting would present a few challenges, like getting the perspective right and the most important thing, getting the “sun lit” quality of the plants and leaves “right.”

I really wanted the plant and the leaves to “pop.” So, since I’m painting the image in acrylics and they dry darker, it means multiple coats of highlights.  Lots of applications of pure color on top of pure color.

After all was said and done, I was really happy with the results.

You can judge it for yourself. Can you feel the spring day? Can you see the sunshine beaming down on the tree leaves and plant?

If you can, then I’ve done my job of sharing my world with you and how I felt on that pristine spring day on the patio totally arrested by the beauty of the moment!

Inspiration comes from anywhere! Be sure to look up! I’m not sure we’re always thinking about looking “up” for ideas. Maybe it just means we should spend more time each day with our head in the clouds!

Two-minute stress relievers you can do at your desk!

A two-minute meditation can help you increase your concentration, help you overcome personal and professional challenges and give you an overall more optimistic feel about yourself and the world.

Meditation works because the process quiets the clutter of your conscious mind allowing you to connect directly with your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is the combined knowledge of everything you know, although you don’t know you know it!

To reduce stress at work and create a better sense of well-being, just sit at your desk and close your eyes. Take in a couple of deep breaths, slowly inhaling and exhaling.

Visualize yourself sitting comfortably on a beach. The sun is shining bright and the sky is Easter egg blue and disappears into infinity. You feel the sun warming your whole body and you begin to relax.

You smell the salty air and feel a warm breeze. You hear the gentle waves lapping onto the beach, one-by-one. You hear children laughing and music playing in the distance.

A feeling of well-being rushes over you as you enjoy being fully in the moment. You feel happy, healthy, relaxed and more aware of yourself and everything around you.

Enjoy being in the moment and stay there as long as you desire. When your’re ready, bring yourself back to being fully in the present moment, then open your eyes. After your two-minute meditation, you should feel the benefits of your mini-stress reliever.

According to verywellhealth.com meditation shows promise as a means of keeping your blood pressure in check. https://www.verywellhealth.com/meditation-for-high-blood-pressure-can-it-help-89622

The nice thing about mini-meditations is that you can do them quickly, quietly and without having to – if necessary – leave your desk!

Are you a blocked creative? Try these 5 exercises for 5 days to “creative emergence.”

Do you need that great idea right now? Does your mind feel like it’s in a fog that’s not lifting? Try these 5 exercises for 5 days and watch the fog disappear and the ideas appear!

Step #1 – “Stream-of-consciousness” exercise

Put pen to paper. Yes. Real paper and a real pen or some kind of writing device. Prepare yourself. You’re going to write 3 pages about whatever you’re thinking about – right now – on paper.  Pen and paper work better than the keyboard, so find some paper and start writing!

Doing this the first thing in the morning is the very best thing! If you commute on mass transit, this is the perfect time!

This is a great time to write down what’s been on your mind, lingering there, just below the surface, annoying you. Yes. Write that down. Write down everything and anything that comes to mind.

If you get stuck, start writing a to-do list. I’ve found just by writing my list of “must-dos” other things surface.

This exercise should take 5-10 minutes, at best.  Do this exercise every day for 5 consecutive days.

“Moonglow”  By Allison Constantino

Step #2 The “what if” exercise

You’ll need another piece of paper to write down whatever comes into your mind when you ask yourself the question, “What if?”  This is the big question and you need an answer!

This exercise allows your mind to take a short vacation by imagining the possibilities of anything without being censored. Yes. The sky is the limit! No editing!

You’ve got a problem. You’re looking for a solution. Try to fill the page with as many “what ifs” as you can! This should take 5-10 minutes at best.

What if I tried this? What if I did this, instead of that? What if I called “Joe” and asked his advice on this. What if I did nothing? What if I tried that again?

What if? What if??

Do this exercise once –  on day one.  If, on days 2-5 you think of something else to add to your “what if” list, add it!

Keep this list somewhere you can see it. (Nobody else has to see it, just you!).

Pick up your favorite book!

Step # 3 The “read something” exercise

Do you have a book you’ve been meaning to read? You know the one. The one sitting on your desk (or Kindle) that you look at and say, “I need to read that!”

That’s the book I’m talking about! If you don’t have a book already, find a book you’d like to read.

I want you to read your favorite book every day, for 5 consecutive days, for 20 minutes every day, preferably in the morning. This will help you stay focused the entire day!

Reading heightens your brain connectivity. It actually rewires parts of your brain. Reading helps you solve problems, understand things and detect meaningful patterns.

Reading makes you emotionally intelligent, increases your attention span, focus and concentration.

Step #4  The “explore” exercise

You only have to do this exercise once in the 5 day period for this to work, but you must do it!

Have you driven by someplace and thought to yourself, “That place looks interesting. I need to check it out!”

This exercise requires you to “explore” something new.  What are you curious about?

If you can’t think of anything you’d like to explore, just try something different like taking another route home from work.

You won’t need more than an hour’s commitment to this exercise, but it’s essential for your creative emergence.

What kind of place qualifies, you ask? I drove by this crazy place all the time called “Skycraft.” It has some kind of rocket on the front of the building. I kept on asking myself, “What in the world is that place?” Finally, I took some time and went inside! I couldn’t believe my eyes! It was like finding buried treasure. Yeah, I had to hunt a bit, but it was so much fun! I can’t tell you how many “treasures” I’ve found there!

That’s the kind of exploring I want you to do. Just once. This week. Take an hour. Go explore somewhere new. It will be fun. You’ll thank me later!

Step #5 The “get outside” exercise

Central Winds Park at sunrise

This will only take you 20 minutes and can be done on a lunch break. You need to do this 20 minute exercise for all 5 days.

I want you to go on a walk by yourself for 20 minutes.  Just allow yourself to “be” 100% in the moment with your thoughts. Just take in everything around you.

You need to be by yourself for this exercise to work so your mind can “process” everything you’ve thrown at it!

As my acting coach told me over-and-over again, “Just be!” (In the moment).

“Creative Emergence”

Hopefully, these 5 exercises in these past 5 days have opened up your mind and let those creative ideas come out of the fog into reality.

The ideas that have come to me, after doing these 5 exercises for 5 days, are seemingly, out-of-the-blue!

I’m never expecting the insights and ideas that come to me! I’m always completely blown-away, actually shocked at the ideas that hit me.

I’ve recognized – previously un-recognized patterns. I’ve come up with creative insights putting two disparate ideas together to make new ones. My list of “ah ha” moments go on-and-on.

I know! I can’t believe it works, but it does!

You might recognize part of this process from author Julia Cameron’s book(s) written for “blocked creatives.” She initially worked with blocked Hollywood script writers, then expanded her reach to include anyone who needed a creative boost.

I’ve taken Julia’s exercises and added a few of my own. I know this has worked for me over-and-over again. As an artist, I create 2 paintings a week, so I need to be constantly filling up my creative well.

If, for any reason, you didn’t get “the big idea” you needed, you can repeat the exercises for another 5 days. Usually this works fast, but occasionally, I’ve run into a few friends who had just completely shut down their creative side and it took longer than 5 days, but it ABSOLUTELY DOES work, so don’t give up!!!

I want to hear from you, so let me know how this worked for you and what happened!